separated by a distance that does not mean a love affair has to end. There is still hope to continue your relationship, certainly with much struggle.
It's a long distance relationship is not always easier than the usual relationship. If he deserved to be maintained, it could not hurt you both try.
Future plans
What kind of relationship your future plans? How the end of this long distance relationship? Whether the couple would later return to home town or you'll join him in a new city?
Future plans will make you both feel there is hope. Although the plan may change, at least you and your partner will always feel there is a happy ending of this long-distance relationship.
Be honest with yourself in making a plan. Do not pretend to agree with the plan when the pair hope to one day your heart will change the plan. Honesty is an attitude which is important in maintaining long distance relationships.
Commitment
Commitment is a factor that is not less important than long-distance relationship. What is expected or not expected to do as far apart the couple should be discussed from the beginning. Tell me honestly what your hopes and your concerns so that your partner can understand.
Find a solution together if there is resistance from the beginning. Remember that this relationship is not easy and need more effort to do so. Do not give up easily just because of minor problems that can still be resolved.
Communication
With the advancement of technology it is no longer a problem. Through video chat, phone, short message, social media, and various other communication channels, the distance would not be too much longer.
Talk from the beginning how the "rules" about communicating. Is the he can be contacted at any time or only at certain times? This must be understood and accepted from the start so as not to lead to conflict. Try to understand each individual situation and do not sue each other too much.
Find time to relax and not rush to mutual berkabar. After work or school, at night in a relaxed moment may be the right time. But if he now and then there are events in the evening be flexible and arrange another time to communicate with each other. Good communication is not determined by the length of time you are talking, but rather on the quality of the conversation.
Meet
If possible, schedule meetings whenever possible. Try to always balanced and does not necessarily require the couple to always visit you. Do visit alternately in accordance with the willingness of the time. Know your neighborhood, where he used to go, and things that relate to everyday activities that you feel calmer.
Fill in your meeting time with the fun stuff. No need to ruin the moment of your meeting with triggering a fight or sulk for no apparent reason. Such a stance would make the couple stress and re-think to continue the relationship with you.
Little attention
Although you often communicate still small concerns directly is equally important. In the special moments he sent a gift by mail to keep him happy. Such minor concerns makes it feel special and make it look as if were there with him.
Nothing wrong with the occasional surprise his arrival. But before you make sure you know he is in a state is not busy and have free time.
Believe
Trust is a key element in long-distance relationship. Jealous and possessive attitude will only undermine your relationship slowly. Are you capable of being believed and keep your jealousy in defense of his love? If not, you should get rid of the intention to connect remotely.
Long distance relationship requires an atmosphere conducive to success. The attitude of jealousy, possessiveness, and easy emotions can easily destroy your relationship. If from the beginning you and your lover already committed to undergo this relationship then prepare yourself. Often you do have to accept and believe what the lover despite the negative thoughts are often overshadowed.
Find an activity
Do not just keep your mind focused on him. Remember, you may still have another life. Go with your activities with enthusiasm to not think about him constantly. Do not leave the habit of going with friends, take a course according to a hobby, or spending time with loved ones.
Interdependence of the partners will continue to make this relationship more serious. If you usually go to the garage with a lover, now try to go it alone or invite people closest to you to accompany. Your ability to adapt and live life with passion greatly influence the success of this relationship.
It's a long distance relationship is not always easier than the usual relationship. If he deserved to be maintained, it could not hurt you both try.
Future plans
What kind of relationship your future plans? How the end of this long distance relationship? Whether the couple would later return to home town or you'll join him in a new city?
Future plans will make you both feel there is hope. Although the plan may change, at least you and your partner will always feel there is a happy ending of this long-distance relationship.
Be honest with yourself in making a plan. Do not pretend to agree with the plan when the pair hope to one day your heart will change the plan. Honesty is an attitude which is important in maintaining long distance relationships.
Commitment
Commitment is a factor that is not less important than long-distance relationship. What is expected or not expected to do as far apart the couple should be discussed from the beginning. Tell me honestly what your hopes and your concerns so that your partner can understand.
Find a solution together if there is resistance from the beginning. Remember that this relationship is not easy and need more effort to do so. Do not give up easily just because of minor problems that can still be resolved.
Communication
With the advancement of technology it is no longer a problem. Through video chat, phone, short message, social media, and various other communication channels, the distance would not be too much longer.
Talk from the beginning how the "rules" about communicating. Is the he can be contacted at any time or only at certain times? This must be understood and accepted from the start so as not to lead to conflict. Try to understand each individual situation and do not sue each other too much.
Find time to relax and not rush to mutual berkabar. After work or school, at night in a relaxed moment may be the right time. But if he now and then there are events in the evening be flexible and arrange another time to communicate with each other. Good communication is not determined by the length of time you are talking, but rather on the quality of the conversation.
Meet
If possible, schedule meetings whenever possible. Try to always balanced and does not necessarily require the couple to always visit you. Do visit alternately in accordance with the willingness of the time. Know your neighborhood, where he used to go, and things that relate to everyday activities that you feel calmer.
Fill in your meeting time with the fun stuff. No need to ruin the moment of your meeting with triggering a fight or sulk for no apparent reason. Such a stance would make the couple stress and re-think to continue the relationship with you.
Little attention
Although you often communicate still small concerns directly is equally important. In the special moments he sent a gift by mail to keep him happy. Such minor concerns makes it feel special and make it look as if were there with him.
Nothing wrong with the occasional surprise his arrival. But before you make sure you know he is in a state is not busy and have free time.
Believe
Trust is a key element in long-distance relationship. Jealous and possessive attitude will only undermine your relationship slowly. Are you capable of being believed and keep your jealousy in defense of his love? If not, you should get rid of the intention to connect remotely.
Long distance relationship requires an atmosphere conducive to success. The attitude of jealousy, possessiveness, and easy emotions can easily destroy your relationship. If from the beginning you and your lover already committed to undergo this relationship then prepare yourself. Often you do have to accept and believe what the lover despite the negative thoughts are often overshadowed.
Find an activity
Do not just keep your mind focused on him. Remember, you may still have another life. Go with your activities with enthusiasm to not think about him constantly. Do not leave the habit of going with friends, take a course according to a hobby, or spending time with loved ones.
Interdependence of the partners will continue to make this relationship more serious. If you usually go to the garage with a lover, now try to go it alone or invite people closest to you to accompany. Your ability to adapt and live life with passion greatly influence the success of this relationship.
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